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WHEN YOUR LOVE TURNS INTO YOUR BETTER HALF

Monalisa Mahapatra
Written by Monalisa Mahapatra. Posted in General Reference on 30 November 2010.
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Love is the purest emotion amongst God’s creations . It is the attraction between two known or unknown people who belong to different families .

You do know that you are in love . You want to gift best things to your love , you search for different ways to surprise her , make him/her happy . But this road of love is not that is . You often give up when you have to sacrifice something or make adjustment . mostly when you marry your love .Why this attitude often comes to lovers when they turn into couples . You search for suggestions and ways to make your family life to go smoothly. Don’t you often ask “why my life turned hell after marriage!”

But you yourself is the one who can answer this question best . Analyse , your life turned in to hell or you made it hell?

Got the answer . Life is not always the same . you have to make changes in your life pattern when your love turns your spouse .Just do as I say

ALWAYS SHARE FEELINGS – Have you forgot say her that you are feeling very sad today. Just say it now. Try to share your feelings with your better half. Good ones bad ones whatever be the feeling speak up .You will feel more closure to your love. Silence will only grew distance .Talk and talk a lot .What you think about life, what u want to do in future , what you like or dislike in him/her etc. But try to tell everything in a mannered way . Don’t intend to hurt your spouse. Sharing of feelings vanishes the unseen border between you two.

DON’T ARGUE - Discussions should be welcomed but not arguments . Listen to silently what your spouse is trying to tell . Read his/her mind . What is annoying ! Then try convince that everything will be ok. If he/she do have any complains sort out with discussions not arguments . If you argue you are going reach nowhere other than splitting your ways only . It’s better to opt the best option that is to solve all the problems by a proper discussion.

SUPPRESS YOUR EGO- Ego is the true enemy of human race .Especially in a family life where husband and wife both have successful lives compare themselves with each other and frustrations began to grow and later on turn into jealousy and hate redness .Kill ego. Remember one thing your position or status can give physical happiness but a good family life will ultimately give you both mental and physical happiness . Give your souse that freedom to make developments in his/her profession or hobby so he/she will be encouraged live life without any unnecessary restrictions.

CELEBRATE TOGETHER –Got a new car celebrate, coloured your home! Celebrate ,your kid got first in class celebrate. Celebrate to together every single happiness you get . This will bring a different charm in your life . Take break from your routine life and make celebrations a part of your life to you to closure two yourselves.

TRY TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS- close your eyes ,try to realise one thing , whenever you have sacrificed something for you love you have got more satisfaction than what you have when you have done something for yourself. Nothing is more important than your family life. Give time to your family . You may succeed in your professional life but this will not satisfy you internally .The true happiness comes to those who is close to him/her dear ones . Make a strategy to distribute time between your family and your career .Give best efforts to improve your career but pamper your family at the same time.

Try out these things to reactivate energy in your love life

  1. Listen to a love song together.
  2. Watch a romantic movie together.
  3. Sit together, remember the silly things you have said in your first date ,laugh together.
  4. Write a love letter saying your inner feelings for each other.
  5. Count the good qualities in your spouse.
  6. Try remain silent when your spouse is in a hot mood.
  7. Try to be friends first.
  8. Help yourselves in each other’s work.

 

The great poet Khalil Gibran had said that “The husband and wife should live like the two pillars of a building that stand apart from each other. They should share the same bread but should not eat from the same loaf.” This means that there should be some space between you and your spouse . You should not be too possessive .Try to love and be in love until death parts you two.

 

Love is the purest emotion amongst God’s creations . It is the attraction between two known or unknown people who belong to different families .

You do know that you are in love . You want to gift best things to your love , you search for different ways to surprise her , make him/her happy . But this road of love is not that is . You often give up when you have to sacrifice something or make adjustment . mostly when you marry your love .Why this attitude often comes to lovers when they turn into couples . You search for suggestions and ways to make your family life to go smoothly. Don’t you often ask “why my life turned hell after marriage!”

But you yourself is the one who can answer this question best . Analyse , your life turned in to hell or you made it hell?

Got the answer . Life is not always the same . you have to make changes in your life pattern when your love turns your spouse .Just do as I say

ALWAYS SHARE FEELINGS – Have you forgot say her that you are feeling very sad today. Just say it now. Try to share your feelings with your better half. Good ones bad ones whatever be the feeling speak up .You will feel more closure to your love. Silence will only grew distance .Talk and talk a lot .What you think about life, what u want to do in future , what you like or dislike in him/her etc. But try to tell everything in a mannered way . Don’t intend to hurt your spouse. Sharing of feelings vanishes the unseen border between you two.

DON’T ARGUE - Discussions should be welcomed but not arguments . Listen to silently what your spouse is trying to tell . Read his/her mind . What is annoying ! Then try convince that everything will be ok. If he/she do have any complains sort out with discussions not arguments . If you argue you are going reach nowhere other than splitting your ways only . It’s better to opt the best option that is to solve all the problems by a proper discussion.

SUPPRESS YOUR EGO- Ego is the true enemy of human race .Especially in a family life where husband and wife both have successful lives compare themselves with each other and frustrations began to grow and later on turn into jealousy and hate redness .Kill ego. Remember one thing your position or status can give physical happiness but a good family life will ultimately give you both mental and physical happiness . Give your souse that freedom to make developments in his/her profession or hobby so he/she will be encouraged live life without any unnecessary restrictions.

CELEBRATE TOGETHER –Got a new car celebrate, coloured your home! Celebrate ,your kid got first in class celebrate. Celebrate to together every single happiness you get . This will bring a different charm in your life . Take break from your routine life and make celebrations a part of your life to you to closure two yourselves.

TRY TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS- close your eyes ,try to realise one thing , whenever you have sacrificed something for you love you have got more satisfaction than what you have when you have done something for yourself. Nothing is more important than your family life. Give time to your family . You may succeed in your professional life but this will not satisfy you internally .The true happiness comes to those who is close to him/her dear ones . Make a strategy to distribute time between your family and your career .Give best efforts to improve your career but pamper your family at the same time.

Try out these things to reactivate energy in your love life

  1. Listen to a love song together.
  2. Watch a romantic movie together.
  3. Sit together, remember the silly things you have said in your first date ,laugh together.
  4. Write a love letter saying your inner feelings for each other.
  5. Count the good qualities in your spouse.
  6. Try remain silent when your spouse is in a hot mood.
  7. Try to be friends first.
  8. Help yourselves in each other’s work.

 

The great poet Khalil Gibran had said that “The husband and wife should live like the two pillars of a building that stand apart from each other. They should share the same bread but should not eat from the same loaf.” This means that there should be some space between you and your spouse . You should not be too possessive .Try to love and be in love until death parts you two.

 


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