Positive Parenting
Introduction
As the time goes, Children are growing. While children are growing so as the responsibilities and problems of parents are also increasing. In the previous decade, there is tremendous amount of increase in Single Family. As the country is progressing, new technology is coming; city is in the advancement stage, so even people who are living in the town are shifting their homes to big cities. In almost all the families, Women also have started working outside. So, if both the parents are working outside, then they don’t get enough time to spend with their children. ‘One Family One Child’ Slogan is really coming in the limelight. With the help of T.V, Mobile and Internet, now a day’s small children get to know all the information of the outside, which are not necessary for them to know in their age. In such time, it becomes little difficult to handle their child. So, parents also understand and taking a new route to handle their child, so that they don’t lost their mind in different thoughts.
Positive Parenting
Before 10 years it was very tough to understand that without shouting to the children it is easy to make our child study. There was thinking in the mind that without shouting or giving punishment, children can’t be taught to study. At those times, parents were very strict in terms of studies as well as with other activities. But, now parents have become liberal now a day’s. Now parents not only expect good studies from their children, but also they should be brilliant in other activities like Dance, sports, Music etc. Parents have started understanding that there is huge pressure on their children about studies, so if they are more pressurized, then they could be responsible for their Mental imbalance. We now a day’s hear a lot of suicides committed by the students when they are not able to score good marks in exams. So, parents have to deal with their children very carefully. Parents should ensure themselves that they are not giving enough pressure to their children. As far a proper parenting is concerned, parents instead of giving negative thoughts to them, they should rather give them positive statement like “ if you will study well, you can be first in the class” instead of saying” Study, otherwise you will fail”. Now parents understand that shouting won’t solve the problem of their children rather they have to handle their children with great positive. Shouting on children could have an opposite or adverse effect on their children. When the child fear from their parents, then their self-confidence is lost somewhere and as the fear is there on the mind, so children commit more mistakes than we have expected. So, parents are now dealing with their children with love and that is the profitable way to handle them.
Comparing is now avoided
The most important change that has come from the previous decade is that now parents don’t compare their son and their daughter. Parents are nurturing their daughter same as they are nurturing their son. Daughter is also given the same opportunities as given to the son. Parents are taking their daughter career very seriously. In those past years or decade this was not at all there. Daughters were considered only to stay home and learn the household things and cook. Now mother not only expects that her daughter should a good housewife, but also think that she touches new height in their career. Now even middle class family girl also aims for the foreign to pursue higher education. Parents have understood that their daughter know to work hard and can have good career. So, instead of demolishing their dreams, parents are giving huge support to their daughters and it feels good that the mind set of parents towards their daughters have change a lot.
Got Personal Space
We all would have noted that since last 10 years, there is tremendous change in the mental growth of children. New school are built, new teacher has arrived, new thinking towards children have been possible, new technologies has arrived in education, Syllabus are changed, different ways of teaching has arrived in school, these all changes has change the thinking, knowledge of Children. Today’s children are very careful about the behavior. They want to be a smarter person, so that they could produce a good future for them. From very small age they work hard in their education, so that they produce a bright future for themselves. In the age group of 11 – 12, children come in such a situation where they could handle themselves very effectively. In such an age group, children wants to have their personal space and parents also don’t hesitate to give them. Now the liberty given to children has increased as compared to the liberty given to children in olden times. In the big cities also even though in small flat, children are given their space, where they can study and build the concentration. Parents should also allow their children to call their friends at their home and if possible they should also sit in a group and share their experiences. Personal space is very important to have the mental growth and grow their thinking. Personal space should be given, but keeping an eye on them is too equally important. You should see that Children are not taking advantage of your liberty.
Friendly nature of parents
There is one old saying that till your leg doesn’t comes in your friend’s shoe, you can’t see that person as your friend. Parents have understood that when they will have friendly nature, then it would quite easy to handle their children. Those parents, who have not learned, are learning by looking at other parents. Now a day’s in the family, there are only 1 or 2 children. In such cases, parents have to play a vital role in having friendship with their children. Parents are also taking out crucial time for their children and play with them on weekends. I think parents should adopt a friendly behavior with children from their children’s early age. Have friendly nature with their children. Parents should share lot of knowledge with their children. Nurture their child and give them enough time, so that they will also feel better. Celebrate birthday of your child, take them outside for outing, show them that you too love to go outside and play with them. Parents have to match with their children’s generation.
Parents are also trying to update themselves
Communication Technology has been improved a lot in India. Mobile phones and Internet has become very important part of their life. In one sense, such technologies are very much helpful in education and lot of other activities; on the other hand, there are also disadvantages which a child can adopt very easily. So, parent’s job becomes very much important in taking care that their children are not spoiled. When children are handling some gadgets, then parents should keep an eye on their children to what they are looking in those gadgets. Parents should be alert when they are using Internet. It doesn’t get enough time for children to get spoiled on internet. So, parents have to deal with their children very carefully. To stop their children to use internet is only possible when parents have enough knowledge about it.
If parents are not having enough knowledge, then ask to your friends who know to handle internet and other social networking sites. Now a day’s Children are very much smarter than us. They know that our parents would keep eyes on us, so they only get into the wrong channel only when parents are far away from them. So, parents have to keep updated to know these things.
- Written by Ronark Bhardwaj.
- In category Parenting and Child Development.
- 11 years ago.
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