So you have both taken the plunge, you have spent time in putting your profile together and added some pictures to your swinging profile. You have contacted some other couples and other couples have contacted you. Having both decided there is an attraction you arrange your very first meeting. How will it go? Will it be great or a complete disaster? Do not forget it really is OK to be nervous. As swingers ourselves we always relate it back to dating when you were single…. you get the same nervous buzz … but in this case you are going on a date together as a couple. But always remember the key factor, this is meant to be fun!!
How can you make that first meeting really work? … Easy FLIRT !
Flirting is simply a common sense method of letting the other couple know you're available and more importantly that you are interested. If done properly, flirting can be a great way to express your personality's to the other couple and let us not forget that it is great fun too!
Be sincere and be spontaneous. If you're going to flirt, you need to be real about it. Anyone can spot a fake. Start with a subject you're comfortable with and let the conversation flow. Don't rehearse what you're going to say. Just listen to what the other couple are saying and respond naturally.
Smile. A smile shows the other couple you're genuinely interested in them. You can't underestimate the power of a smile. A smile makes you look friendly, confident and approachable – and besides it shows that you are both having a great time and enjoying the meeting.
Show an interest, always maintain eye contact and show a sincere interest in them by asking specific, open-ended questions. This demonstrates that you specifically want to get to know them as people as well a 'play' partners. For some people this is an important factor when meeting a couple with whom they might want to play. For others this is not so important and it is vital that you give this information out when writing for your profile.
Ask questions and listen. Listening in all situations has become a lost art. But the best conversationalists are great listeners. Good flirts will spend twice as much time listening as they do talking. Ask questions then listen to the answer. It shows a real interest and the other couple will be flattered.
It's an obvious sign of interest and is a subtle way to get someone's undivided attention.. It is flattering and just a little risque …
Finally, be confident. We're all drawn to confident people and others can sense when you have it. But be careful do not be over confident as that can sometimes be seen as being pushy or even a little arrogant and this is the last way that you should come over to other people as.
But hey you both know all this already - you might just have forgotten it all as it might have been a while since you used these skills.
How can you make that first meeting really work? … Easy FLIRT !
Flirting is simply a common sense method of letting the other couple know you're available and more importantly that you are interested. If done properly, flirting can be a great way to express your personality's to the other couple and let us not forget that it is great fun too!
Be sincere and be spontaneous. If you're going to flirt, you need to be real about it. Anyone can spot a fake. Start with a subject you're comfortable with and let the conversation flow. Don't rehearse what you're going to say. Just listen to what the other couple are saying and respond naturally.
Smile. A smile shows the other couple you're genuinely interested in them. You can't underestimate the power of a smile. A smile makes you look friendly, confident and approachable – and besides it shows that you are both having a great time and enjoying the meeting.
Show an interest, always maintain eye contact and show a sincere interest in them by asking specific, open-ended questions. This demonstrates that you specifically want to get to know them as people as well a 'play' partners. For some people this is an important factor when meeting a couple with whom they might want to play. For others this is not so important and it is vital that you give this information out when writing for your profile.
Ask questions and listen. Listening in all situations has become a lost art. But the best conversationalists are great listeners. Good flirts will spend twice as much time listening as they do talking. Ask questions then listen to the answer. It shows a real interest and the other couple will be flattered.
It's an obvious sign of interest and is a subtle way to get someone's undivided attention.. It is flattering and just a little risque …
Finally, be confident. We're all drawn to confident people and others can sense when you have it. But be careful do not be over confident as that can sometimes be seen as being pushy or even a little arrogant and this is the last way that you should come over to other people as.
But hey you both know all this already - you might just have forgotten it all as it might have been a while since you used these skills.
