What are the reasons -Why you like/love someone?

"There may be 1000s of reasons for which we like or love someone. In the extreme case, there may be no reasons at all!!!" (Literal translation of 2-lines written by me earlier)

What are the reasons or qualities that attract you most, to make him/her your friend???

I often feel that, we can't gain anything free, even love or friendship...We like someone if he does an unexpected help for us.......Very often we measure relations based on the helps/love we get in return.......That's the reason why any wrong move can end a relation abruptly....
Written by Category: Family & Relationships 6 years ago
Sandhya Rani

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I agree, many a times we feel that if someone is helping us, he/she is a good person, but personally I take everything with a pinch of salt. If someone is very very helpful, certainly they have some motive or hidden agenda for which they might ask for a return favor. Like you have already said. Most human relationships are based on the idea of give-and-take. But it is certainly not true in every case...there are people who go on giving but get very less in return..this is in the context of friendship. But there are no reason why you like a person but certainly there could be reasons why you dislike a person.
For me one reason to dislike a person is one who is nosy..one who keeps interrogating others for no reason, and the other one is one who pass comments or criticize others because they are born critics. Such people get pleasure by making others feel bad about themselves.
Mousumi Ghosh
Sandhya Rani What's your opinion about those who behave well and friendly with you without any expectations, though they are not same and often rude with others. Can you like such a person....? In many cases, we can see persons around us who are not friendly with others, but like us....may be because of our impressive character or behaviour which they appreciate.. - Sandhya Rani - 6 years ago
Mousumi Ghosh If a person is nice to me and not with anyone else, it is doubtful that the person is really a nice person. But obviously if a person is nice to me I will be nice to that person too. - Mousumi Ghosh - 6 years ago
Sandhya Rani Ya, that's exactly the give-take policy. What we get, we give in return. If not going too much details, it works fine always.... - Sandhya Rani - 6 years ago

Love is an emotional tie. I don't think this is done. Love happens and is not done. The question is what generates love. I feel that everyone has some image of beauty and loveable object or person in his mind. When the object and person resembles or corresponds to his mental image, the love happens.

Sandhya- Generally the mental image of lovable object or person is that of opposite quality. A weakling desires strength. even an ugly person like a pretty face. The oppoite gender also is lovable. It is not that anyone would perceive of beauty as something that matches his own characteristics. Often a man likes the qualities that he himself does not possess.
Sandhya Rani Then why is it said, opposite poles attract....why people extremely different in character love or like each other? - Sandhya Rani - 6 years ago

I dont think there is any set reasons for liking someone...You like someone you have not met simply because there is something about them that attracts you and to a certain extent you feel that you have something in common with them, the same is the case when you get repelled by some people because of certain characteristics they posses. No matter how nice they are you end up disliking them because you dont like the way they interact or come across in public. Many a times I have felt that first impressions are right afterall in judging a person...
usha manohar

Love is love, it just happens. There is no reason to love a person.
Kalyani Nandurkar

The question should be why we dislike someone! I love/like everyone unless someone proves me wrong.
Sandhya Rani then you are wrong....let me see if u dislike me....hihi....
I liked the question....why we dislike someone...bcoz he irritates us a lot :)
- Sandhya Rani - 6 years ago

Anyone, who takes and accepts as I'm and not demanding,is a lovable one for me.these qualities make me fall head and shoulders on tht person.
Sandhya Rani yes one should accept us for what we are as, now and today....not for what we can be in future.... - Sandhya Rani - 6 years ago
rambabu I agree. One Night Affairs are the guests of a few days.By morning everything fades away. - rambabu - 6 years ago

Simplicity, openness and helping nature are the qualities I appreciate in others. The people who have some proud attitude then I cannot be drawn towards that person.

Shampa Sadhya

Helping nature always attracts others. So if someone is doing something for you without taking anything from you then naturally you get attracted towards the person.

Manoj Kumar Lamba

There would be some qualities in a person that we begin to like or love and that's where it all begins. Admiration.

Sheetal Kumar N

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