How one's First Love is treasured later?

It's quite natural....all relations may not culminate into a happy marriage and happy ending. May be personal breakups or under family pressures, lovers may be forced to marry someone else and as years pass by, he/she will definitely accept the new relationship very soon or later. If so, how will he/she prefer to see old lover in most cases? In most cases does he/she treasure it throughout the life as a beautiful phase of life or convert the relationship to a normal friendship and carry it forward with the normal life in a usual way? How many would really prefer to call his old lover of yesterday as a true friend of today?

Category: Family & Relationships 5 years ago
Sandhya Rani
Asked 5 years ago

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First of all not every time a first love turns out to be a real love, not all love relationships end with marriage. And certainly if a person is still friends with their ex-flame then it is sign that they are not happy in their marriage or current relationship, can lovers really remain as friends- i doubt. First love if real no doubt is to be cherished for life time, but I don't really feel one should have any relationship after the relationship ends with that person, it is a breach of trust for on-going or future relationship.

Mousumi Ghosh
Answered 5 years ago
Mousumi Ghosh

Actually first love is last. Subsequent 'love' is onlycompromise with life. 

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani
Answered 5 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani

It's not easy to erase erstwhile sweet memories. They remain in the mind. No, I'm not prepared to accept my old love as a friend. I live with those memories unto the last.

rambabu
Answered 5 years ago
rambabu

First love never will forget until it is true. But if the person did not meet the lover and he married some other person and in some situation they want to meet each other if they are good lovers they say hello and never wound others feelings. In reality women accept the first love if told by men when it happens to meet the girl but men are not accepting and start to doubt there wife.

Dwarakanathan
Answered 5 years ago
Dwarakanathan

It is usually said that first love is the best and is treasured forever. But most of the times, first love also means infatuation at a young age and maybe quite forgotten as one grows and matures.

Kalyani Nandurkar
Answered 5 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar

First love teaches us some fundamentals of love. Realities in life and the situations may separate the lovers. Once the new family relationship is started, time will erase the old memories; or else, you have to erase it. Otherwise you will lose your commitment to your present family life. The healthy way is to treat the old lover as a friend of today and continue your present life as usual. Life is a great drama and we are all clever actors!!  

RAMAKRISHNAN. A
Answered 5 years ago
RAMAKRISHNAN. A

The very definition of love changes with time..Initially it has to do with physical attraction and thats when youngsters get attracted and fall in love .It may come right but most of the time it does not and then one moves on ...So, first love being the only love does not make much sense ..

usha manohar
Answered 5 years ago
usha manohar

For some cases yes first love stays forever and they do compromise with other. But not in all cases. As I know few people who are really happy with their second love and they just forgot about the first one. In that case it is depend on person if they are in touch with first one or not. And yes they can be good friends if they want. 

AKP
Answered 5 years ago
AKP

To my view, when a girl or a boy got separated from their lover due to some reasons like family force and all, after getting married to new relation they should move forward in life by ignoring the lover whom she or he left. and they should feel the person she or he married is their life and should accept and digest the truth that gods decision is this and they have to follow

sarala
Answered 4 years ago
sarala

First love may be best but love of your life is great whether for good or bad  you tied knot with your better half so your focus should be on them but not on an old relationship which will lead you nowhere.

Sreematrana
Answered 2 years ago
Sreematrana

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