Whom we forgive easily - Close Ones or Far Ones?

FORGIVE & FORGET - Is it easy if the other person is one whom we actually care for??? Or Is it the most difficult thing????

What I feel is everything rest on our expectations from the other person. Sometimes I feel it's easy to accept mistakes and negatives of our dear ones and not in the case of others. But at the same time, I often feel we easily forget other people's mistakes who never form a part of our life and never easily forget the wounds given by dearest ones. WHICH CONDITION DO U FEEL IS RIGHT????

Category: Family & Relationships 4 years ago
Sandhya Rani
Asked 4 years ago

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When a close person, whom we love so much, do something wrong to us, it will hurt us very badly and the wound will be difficult to heal. Though it may not reflect in our external behavior, it will remain in a corner of our heart, like a black mark difficult to erase. ….. We may forgive, but we cannot forget.

But if similar thing happens from another person who is not related to us, it will be treated in a different angle. The issue will be resolved soon or later and will be faded from our memories in due course……. It happens so because we consider more sanctity to our relations.

 

RAMAKRISHNAN. A
Answered 4 years ago
RAMAKRISHNAN. A

Forgiving anyone is not difficult provided the other person feels genuinely sorry and makes an effort to make things right.I forgive my close family very easily no matter how serious the issue is ..Even outsiders it would be the same because there is no point in holding grudges if the feelings of regret is genuine and well meant !

usha manohar
Answered 4 years ago
usha manohar

Relationships are said to be the most important factor in Society. These relationships vary.They range from family to our neighbor. This is the reality. I believe in the adage, " First things first." In tune with by belief, I give all preferences to my family members and then to the others.

 I'll be more concerned if my family member commits a mistake. First I chastise and reprimand and warn him or her to amend their ways.

It will not be the same in case of a person who causes an accident in an in abbreviated condition.

Hence, i 'm of the opinion that i prefer to forgive my own family members.

rambabu
Answered 4 years ago
rambabu

I believe in moving on but the scar made by someone's mistake remains in my heart be it my dear ones or not so dear ones. That means I try not to drag any ill happening but definitely I don't forget. I try not to judge my dear ones constantly because of having a sour experience with them so that I can mix with them freely. Regarding the not so dear ones I don't feel bothered because it becomes very formal for me after a bad experience. Sometimes confrontation goes on which neither allows to forgive and forget in the case of dear ones and in the case of not so dear ones I will ignore the person completely.    

Shampa Sadhya
Answered 4 years ago
Shampa Sadhya

We forgive strangers and distant people easily as we don't have more expectations from them. It is hard to forgive ournear family mmbers and close friends from whom we expect better deal. 

Gulshan Kumar Ajmani
Answered 4 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani

We forget none, only the close ones take time to go away from the memory but the people whom we stay in touch seldom come to mind seldomely but I repeat we forgot none. The frequency of memory is directly related to our closeness of relations.

suni51
Answered 4 years ago
suni51

Our expectations are from people who are close and the distant ones don't mean much to us. 

How does it matter to me what a stranger says to me or behind my back? How does it matter to me if a stranger backstabs? How does it matter to me if a stranger or an acquaintance does everything to hurt me?

But I have all the expectations from a loved one.. that he or she cares and feels for me the way I do for him or her. I expect the person to get my back when needed. I really would be very hurt if a loved one causes me pain and I will find it very hard to forgive.

So its harder to forgive a loved one.

Anchal
Answered 3 years ago
Anchal

Its easy to say but difficult to implement. I never forgive people but never forget and always take learning from things. I know its not easy to forget if we are hurt by our dear ones as we never expect it from them. But thats part of life we have to forget things and go forward in life.

Sanjeev Gupta
Answered 4 years ago
Sanjeev Gupta

It depends on how grave their mistakes are whether they are ready to accept their mistakes, feel sorry for it and have tried to make amendments for their mistakes. I guess it does always hurt more when it is a person close to us but then that very reason makes it also easier for us to forgive and move on with life.

Kalyani Nandurkar
Answered 4 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar

Actually people for give close once very easily but I feel according to the situation we need to take decision whether to forgive or not but not close or far

sarala
Answered 4 years ago
sarala

From my opinion I think people tend to forgive and forget far ones easily than the closed ones as far ones we may be just be casual and not so serious all the time, however it also depends upon the nature of mis understanding or mistake. If it is very serious like humiliation then in any situation it will not be easy to forgive and forget. In far relations even if we forgive them easily it is only due to the benefit that we may gain by associating with them.

epraneeth77
Answered 9 months ago
epraneeth77

If you are hurt, forgiveness does not come easy. It has to be practiced consciously till it slowly becomes a part of you. It is easier to forgive when the person is genuinely sorry and admits that. Having said that, I would answer the question by saying that it is situational. We always prefer to forgive and forget silly things with our closed ones because they are close, special and we encounter them more in our lives. So with these close people we try not to have hard feelings and overlook their small and silly mistakes. That is not the case with far ones. However, it is other way in different situation. If the hurt is too deep, it is tough to forgive your closed ones as you are too overwhelmed by your closeness and expectations. It seems like a betrayal. In that situation forgiving far ones is easier as your expectations from them are not so much and your emotions do not overwhelm you so much as they do for close ones.

Arunima Singh
Answered 3 years ago
Arunima Singh

Just forgive, it does not matter who it is! In the end we are the ones who bear the burden of pain and you never know one day we could be in their position...so just forgive and move on...you dont have to be friends with them....just dont hold on to a grudge!

 

Pearl Leo
Answered 4 years ago
Pearl Leo

Very easy, we forgive a person from which we have not any expectation, but it will took some time forgive person from which we have some expectation. time play important role in forgiveness.

anil
Answered 4 years ago
anil

There is a difference between forgiving and forgetting. Because if a person close to us does something wrong we may forgive him but we will not forget but if outside person does the same thing we may not forgive them but we'll altogether forgot about the issue and the person very easily.

Sreematrana
Answered 2 years ago
Sreematrana

It is easy to forgive and forget mistakes by near and dear ones when compared to people who are not as close.

Sheetal Kumar N
Answered 2 years ago
Sheetal Kumar N

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