It's indeed a troubling question, a question of hot debate regarding social issues and women empowerment
It's about my neighbour. She is a graduate, 20 years old, and very childish in nature. She belongs to a middle class family, financially not sound. She has one younger sister. Her father in his late 40s suffers from Parkinson's disease for the past 10 years. Yet he is doing wielding job at home. Her mother is unemployed. The girl is very ambitious, she wants to secure a job, go to higher studies, while her family and relatives pressurize her to get married and settle. She knows it well, getting into a family life means almost a full stop to studies, which she doesn't want. She also wants to secure a good job and financially support her family (no boys in the family). Also she is not at all mentally prepared for a marriage, and looks like a girl of 15 or so, in appearance or behaviour. Though her parents are not against her wish, relatives mentally torture her and try to brainwash her saying about her father's condition. Her father's left hand is not working properly, yet he is fully active with his work with the help of an assistant. The matches she is currently getting are with 10thpass, plus two plus, graduation pass, working as accountant etc.
It's not a single incident. Many daughters need to leave their dreams for the sake of her family. What's your take? Should she settle with marriage, or take risk and study further? Very often girls are helpless. I support her to complete PG first, prepare for tests side by side and think about marriage after 2 years.
In Thrissur, I have noticed that most girls (if not into government sector jobs) get married while doing graduation or PG. Most girls marry off before they reach 24, while in Thiruvananthapuram great preference is given to girls' education and job. Getting married at the age of 27 or 30 is not a big deal. I too get married at the age of 26 and a half.
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|Well said!!!! But certain things still exist in Indian society. Whatever developments we make, we still prefer to say, for a girl marriage is first priority, though she deserves good education, it's not at all necessary she should seek a job and become financially stable or help her old parents. Still parents see girls as a responsibility, and if she is married off, they got rid of the burden. Indian society still need to travel a lot!!! - Sandhya Rani - 3 years ago|
|It entirely depends on the individual as to how they handle the society and unless parents don't change their mindset they cannot expect the society to be any different .. - usha manohar - 3 years ago|
|Yes, you are right - Sandhya Rani - 3 years ago|