Buliding up the conversation(part 6)
Turning the Tide
The stream of conversation will flow unhindered and unbroken n any direction unless skillfully diverted along fruitful channels. There may b experts in the group, adept in conversation, knowing its various ways. Despite this, one can be carried away be one’s words and one’s affairs. If one person takes it upon himself to do so, he may succeed only in changing one centre for another. To divert a conversation, all must co-operate.
Brushing Aside of Arguments
Arguments generally tend to destroy the true spirit of conversation. Personal hurt or resentment can easily be caused by chance remarks or unwarranted inferences. If there are latent rivalries, it is difficult to make concessions for other’s statements and of course where one’s integrity and honesty are involved, one cannot but retaliate with equal vehemence.
However, such a situation arises only between two or three persons in the group, while the rest are generally silent witnesses to the verbal combat. The best way to tackle such a situation is to be unaffected by the scene. If some have the right to get into argument disregarding others feelings, others have n equal right to ignore them.
This, of course is something like an extreme measure or step. In this diffusion, the subject of discussion will regain its equilibrium and lose much of its heat.
This equilibrium nevertheless may again b disturbed if the people in the group do not co-operate equally. Sharing the conversation not only means participation by all that each gets an equal chance to speak.
It cannot be denied that all cannot take part in the conversation to the same depth if their level of intelligence is not the same. Some may take their social inequality to be a bar to their full participation. It would be meaningful to add at this point that the common share should not always be judged from the viewpoint of contribution but also from the angle of participation in other forms.
Rudeness and Ignorance
Some persons seem rude not because they are organically made that way, but because of their crude manner. Voice, gesture, expression, all go to make up a person’s manners and without wishing to be so, some people by their uncouth manners appear to be rude. Though a deterrent to easy conversation initially, uncouth and rough behavior often hides a gentle heart.
Deliberate rudeness like uncivil remarks by which a person may feel hurt is an altogether different matter. Such rudeness cannot possibly be tackled without a rebuff and if the others instantly take the side of the aggrieved party, the offender should have the sense to give up his line of aggression.
Ignorance is another hindrance to the smooth flow and exchange of views. Though a person may be ignorant of many things, yet with the help of the group he will be able to follow the conversation. Only a person of a intellectual caliber will be at loss to understand anything and may ask silly questions.
Sense of Belonging
The sense of belonging lends life to a conversation. To make successful conversation, it is imperative that this sense of belonging should grow among the participants in a conversation. One sense of belonging is that of blood relations, one’s kith and kin. The sense of belonging among strangers grows as a feeling of mutual trust and respect is generated in the course of the conversation.
Important of Humour
All crises that have been referred to before yield ground in the face of humour. Humour is a vital part of any conversation though its nature and quality will depend on the standard of the talk that has been established. The same kind of humour is not effective in all circumstances. All kinds of humour have their own source and utility. Conversation ordinarily is never totally bereft of laughter.
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