WHAT TO DO IN A FRIENDSHIP
Do you have a friend ? Who you call a friend and what you do in friendship? All these questions have got one answer friends are made from heart , got pampered from heart and remain alive in heart .Today people make friends very easily but do not make their friendship go long . Whether it breaks off in months or go on with rifts . I have seen my father’s friends , not many but a few . Their friendship started from the days of school and till today they are good friends and do have a great understanding between them. Once I asked my father “ What is the secret of your long lasting friendship?”
My father instructed me to remember some points which are beneficial making and friendship long and refreshing.
A FRIEND IN NEED- There is very popular phrase that a friend in need is a friend indeed. One should always there for a friend is in some type of problem. That is very true . My father shared every grief moments with his friends . He was always stood besides his friends when they needed him most. It is not always the financial help which counts but it’s the true words of sympathy from the heart which brings the friends closure to each other.
ORGANISE GET TOGETHERS- My father always organised events which would bring the friends to gather in some place for some reason . Be it some friend’s birthday or a new year celebration or the occasion of diwali he kept constant touch with his friends . When friends gather they share naturally their problems with each other and get more closure .
NO SPACE FOR MISUNDERSTANDINGS - Over expectation leads to misunderstanding . Be there for friend but don’t want anything from a friend is my father’s policy in friendship. If you water your friendship in expectation you will get fruits of bitterness .If you give the shadow of love you will reap rich and everlasting friendship. My father always helped his friends without wanting anything other than words of love and in return he got faithful friends for his whole life.
THROW JEALOUSNESS OUT OF FRIENDSHIP - Are you jealous of your friend because he is rich or famous or lucky? Than friendship is not your share . Name ,fame or luck will never last and can never do what a true friendship can do. My father never gave priority to these worldly things and never put his friendship at stake for those . In return he got the friends who are in true words the real treasure in his life . Rather getting jealous try to give encouragement to your friend for the betterment of his life and career .
KNOW YOUR FRIEND’S INTRESTS – If you want to be better friends and understand each other better than what your friend likes and what he hates most . If you will know your friend’s interests than only you can get closure and behave accordingly . If your friend is shy one , try to talk with him from your side and try to know his inner feelings yourself .If your friend talks much , be a good listener . Gift your friend something which reminds him of his good days. Remember his birthday , anniversary or any day which special in your friend’s life and wish .See how wonders work in your relationship.
There is a saying that “God has given us relatives but thanks to him we choose friends ourselves.” My father always repeats these words and say “ Dear that’s friendship is the that you make , so as you take care of your home , your favourite dress , your certificates so why not your friendship ! It also needs care , love to grow up.” I always keep in mind these words and respect and care for my friends . So why not you? And one thing , It does not matter how much friends you do have , but what type of friends you have . So careful in choosing friends and heart full in continuing friendship with them. Thank you.
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