Women are no lesser responsible for harassment
Men and their so-called cruelty
We can notice that the deteriorating condition of women in India is perhaps the most talked about subject in political, literary and social circles these days. Anyone worth his name is painting such a sorrowful picture of women in order to earn sympathy for them which can mold even the hardest of peoples in their favor. It has become a fashion to paint men as cruel, barbaric and the ones taking undue advantage of helpless women. Even men feel ashamed having born as men, reading or listening those stories which in most cases ridicule them or highly exaggerated. But the stories presented so authentically that any listener would believe them without thinking twice. However, most of the stories are neither true nor all men are cruel but in most cases, women are themselves to be blamed for their sorry condition. I know that I am going to face a heavy criticism for my post but I cannot help writing the truth.
Man is responsible for domestic violence – False
Men always face the allegation of beating their wives and most social workers, writers and women organizations but no one accepts the fact that men are always on the receiving end otherwise all rules support woman and woman take full advantage of these rules. There are cases of violence or wife beating in reference to dowry but a man was never responsible. If you study a dowry case honestly, you will invariably find it initiated by another woman. Man is merely a weapon in the hands of woman who acts on the direction of a woman. No one goes into the facts behind domestic violence where a simple statement by a woman is enough to send a man behind the bars but a man has no say, even if he provides enough evidences in his favor.
Almost everyone knows that a woman has unlimited rights under section 498A to accuse her ‘relatives in-law’ for ‘Dowry demands and atrocities’ which can see all her husband’s relatives land in jail without any delay. The relatives sent to jai in such cases include the ones who have never seen the woman who has filed the case. There is another fact and even the courts know it that in more than 50% cases the men find themselves framed but punished because our law favors women. Still woman is considered weak compared to men who have no rights whatsoever.
Sexual harassment – It is both sided
The men are framed in almost all sexual harassment cases and even if any man really found involved in sexual harassment case, he is mentally sick. I should agree that some men are corrupt and mentality sick but so are women, who can go up to any extent for self-benefit. Generally, a normal man does not indulge in such acts because no man with self-respect would like to destroy his image for something not as worthy. I am not counting mentally ill people who commit such crimes but there are cases of women indulging in such acts although most such cases involving women as offender come rarely in daylight for different reasons, maybe men are not as fussy as women to make these cases public.
Another fact which is very common in cases of women involving in sexual atrocities on men are that women if caught red handed putting all blame on men and escape easily. People seem to believe that women do not or may not commit such acts. Women otherwise use man as ladder for their benefit offering themselves as bait but never proved guilty due to Indian mentality of the men who are themselves not interested to prolong the matter in most cases.
Man is head of the family – False
Our society is considered man oriented society and on face value it looks like so, but this is not the whole truth. Practically man is a follower of woman and in most cases; he has to obey a woman without having any of his say whatsoever. But most people who are out to prove women as sufferer would never agree with me because they have a set trend of looking at this matter with a different angle- The woman-oriented angle. I have myself written lots of articles clearly describing that woman of our country is not the same as she used to be a couple of decades back, at least she is not being oppressed by a man if at all she being treated ill. There is a woman behind the scene if a woman is suffering anywhere.
As far head of family is concerned, it is limited to name in the Ration Card, otherwise the reality is entirely different. A family is run by a woman be it mother or wife. A man has no say at all in most matters, a man must do as directed by a woman at the most he is consulted but that is about all as far his being head of the family. Watch any TV serial and you will see what I mean. Most men sit in a corner in total silence while women doing all the talking and taking decisions, men are allowed to shake their heads in agreement. And please do not ell me that stories and serials for entertainment or created out of imagination, the reality is as good as our imaginations, stories and literature are true mirror of today’s’ society.
Man is second fiddle - True
Fact is, all decision in a family come from a woman. Post marriage a man in most cases finds him unable to maintain relations with siblings or even with his parents as normal as he used to have. In most cases a woman, his wife decides how to deal with them, how much respect they deserve and in cases, most men find it a safe strategy to oblige them in order to keep their houses and mental peace intact. The man who always dreamed of staying with his parents or keeping them with him to support them in their old age depends on his wife to decide about such matters. Even the respect man’s parents deserve, measured on a scale set by a woman. This all may sound funny but are unpleasant facts, which are hard to deny. Moreover, the society is full of such unpleasant relations that you can see in your neighborhood if not in your own household. Men play only secondary roles in running a household and that needs no proofs, they are limited to nod their head to make them look part of the establishment. Man cannot even compete with his servant where it comes to dispute a decision taken by lady of the house, because a servant is always in a better position, who can always say a ‘no’ but man has no such rights if the decision comes from his wife.
Conclusion
Man is a tool for woman and our society will have to learn it as fast as it can. The present situation is direct result of getting cheap publicity of so-called intellectuals and groups of feminists who are not honest in judging the actual situation of today’s woman. Some cases of atrocities might be true but it is a common problems not limited to Indian scenario. The problem of sex discrimination exists in almost every society of the world including advance societies.
Women want extra attention in every society compared to their male counter parts, this is true including western world, therefore leave no stone unturned and to get it they even defame men for atrocities. It is high time we rise to occasion to solve the problem of increasing distances in between the two sexes. Women should treat men with more respect, as men have had enough and want to have some relief now. What I feel is that all men are not cruel, feminist need to grow up and seek equality for all and that obviously includes men.
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