We must change ourselves- Not others
Change yourself to succeed
I started with the idea when I found that being a cleanliness freak was giving me lot of trouble. I was unable to cop up with slightest of dust particles in my living area and office, I wanted everything clean, and dust free. I used to put extra pressure on my wife and office attendant to keep everything shining which made them uncomfortable.
I knew my wife and office attendant tried their best to keep as much cleanliness as possible. I then decided to lower my own expectation to reduce level of stresses it was causing to all of us. I know we cannot change certain things related to us so it is better to change ourselves. This helped me change my attitude and I found my stresses were gone as well. Once you are relieved of your stresses you have better chances to succeed in life and your career.
Need of changes
Most of us feel that it is very easy to ask others to change but it is not that easy. You know this is like changing your parents, your children or even your own boss. We face disappointment if we try to change others however, the best strategy is to change ourselves, especially if it makes us happy and help us keep better relations with others. It is no good keep fighting with others and keeping ourselves stressed forever. Going for compromises sometimes helps keep you happy and stress free especially, if you have nothing to loose. I applied this rule in my life, when I found that I was unable to change others according to my plans.
There is very thin line in between people who like to keep things clean and those who are mentally sick and repeatedly keep cleaning or doing same things because they are not sure about themselves. This is a complex problem, which does not go easily without friends, and relatives helping them recover constantly. Also, people who keep repeating the same mistakes and feel irritated if someone points it out to them come into the same category. They do not want to mend their ways.
We must behave properly
The society today is being increasingly intolerant. We can see that everywhere including in our own residential areas where you will find some angry residents who become almost terrifying for other residents of the area. People feel afraid talking to such persons because it is not safe to talk to them and the way they react on even smallest of matters.
The fact is, a person who has no control over his anger looses control over himself and the one who cannot control himself cannot differentiate in between good and bad, truth and lies, justice and injustice. A person who cannot control his anger looses tender feelings, which are qualities of a balanced person. A person who is angry by nature can never treat anyone with tenderness and kindly, a social need for human being.
How to deal with angry persons
It is very much part of our social life. It is better to understand the feelings of such a person instead of being frightened of him. If we look at them sympathetically and make them feel comfortable, it will be good for both, the person in question and us because that will develop a cordial relation and reduce anger of the person in question. To avoid being a target of such an angry person we can follow any of these methods-
1- You can avoid his anger with simple method of smile his bad-mouthing or taking him normally without much of a reaction
2- Avoid his company whenever he is too angry or not ready to listen to reasons
3- There is another way to counter his bad-mouthing or fowl language- whenever he decides to talk rubbish, counter it with praising him. He will be confused to the tune that he will forget to talk badly.
4- There is another way to make him understand - that the need is to face him with courage and tell him to behave. He should know that his survival depends on his good behavior otherwise, he will be cut-of from others in the society.
We should enhance our knowledge
It is another crucial part to live a successful life, we need to enhance our knowledge and unless we have a good knowledge base it is hard to achieve success in any field, so it is must to develop habits, which add to our knowledge. Reading is a habit that can help us gain knowledge about political developments, social activities and thus helping you plan your own future. General knowledge and scheduling your own plans according to newer developments around the world is an advantage if only you make reading a regular habit.
How to develop reading habit
We all know the importance of reading in our life but we all are getting lesser time for study due to different reasons. Maybe we are too busy on internet, watching television or our own lifestyle. However, we should develop reading habit by adding newspapers, magazines and other useful books on subjects, which interest us in our daily routine. It will not only develop our interest for reading, but will provide you with newer ideas, which will help develop your personality and career.
Reading habit is must
Some of us believe that we can compensate by watching TV and surfing internet whatever we miss by not reading but reading is a different knowledge, which develops mind-power as well makes you a better person. You cannot compare what you gain by reading books to what you watch on news channels that keep repeating the same news throughout the day. The best part of reading is that we can do it anywhere, even while traveling to work or spare time in workplace. However, we shall have to give up habits, which are not productive as gossiping, which gives us nothing. Everyone has enough time but the need is to utilize it properly.
Time management is must
To develop good habits, we must learn to manage our timetable in best possible ways. One must decide the priorities in his life and act according to that. If you feel that reading habit can help you develop into a better man, go for it today. To develop good habits you have to sort out your current habits, keep the good ones and give up the useless to replace them with good ones and reading habit is one good habit, we should add it to our daily timetable to change our habits rather.
Conclusion
We should understand that if we wish to change others we should change ourselves first. There is no use keep fighting with others or keeping ourselves stressed forever but reaching nowhere. Going for compromises sometimes helps keep you happy and stress free especially, if you have nothing to loose. If we do not have courage to face an angry man, we are giving him a chance to be angrier next time. Therefore, the best strategy is to either avoid him or face him with all the truth and thinking that a person with angry attitude needs your sympathy and kindness because he is unable to understand the reason in his angry moments. So, the need of the change is overall.
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