Arranged marriage - Tradition of Our society.
What is arranged marriage?
All marriages are already fixed by our god. We are only to follow his instruction as they directed. Many people cannot have a belief in this fact but this is a true. We are only a simple toy that follow all kinds of instruction from their master. Many people have a wrong concept about this tradition. They only think that their partner is totally stranger and they have to spend his/her life with that stranger. Today a new tradition arises that one partner wants to know everything related to other partner before they engage with each other. Love marriage is not successful as that of arranging marriage because at first sight this love marriage look better but as time progress it starts breaking down. Many countries do not follow the concept of arranging marriages. They mostly follow love marriages. It is well known tradition in our Asian countries. Our culture is very unique Arranged marriages is not a connection between one male and female but it is a connection between two families. After marriage they seem to look one. This is our tradition. In other countries this kind of tradition is not followed. They only know it is a relationship between two people only. From this article we got some idea about both types of marriages and familiar with some basic advantages and disadvantages of both kinds of marriages.
A marriage that is arranged by our parents or elders
Now the discussion is moving on arranging marriages. First of all exact meaning of an Arranged marriage in our country. It is a kind of marriage in which two unknown people are connected with the help of their parents. By this marriage two families establish a relationship with each other. In many religions the couple is totally unknown to each other. In that religion their choice cannot matter a lot. Their parent decide which boy is good for you or vice-versa. They have to accept their parent's decision.
Arranged marriages are decided on various factors
Some of the factors given below: ----
1. By matching their caste.
It plays an important role in every arranged marriage. The two families must posses a same caste.
2. By matching their horoscope.
Before marriage Kundli of the both the boy and girl should match with each other on the basis of 36 attributes. In that case more and more attributes need to be matched. Many families does not ready for marriage because large numbers of attributes do not match. In many cases a marriage cannot take place because either girl or boy is "Manglik".
3. By matching their social status.
Most marriages cannot take place due to the difference between the two families. The status of one family is much better than other family. This Status can be measured in term of money. In our country becoming a father of a girl is really a difficult task.
4. Due to the presence of the Ego.
If you are going to see a girl and if you cannot get sufficient respect then this become the matter of Ego. Even this thing happens during the day of marriage too. If you are a father of a girl then become ready to do all possible things that you can do for your daughter. In India arranged marriage is really a big task for both families. Many times a daughter father is badly insulated. This may lead to some serious problem. It might lead a death of someone. When the above condition is fulfilled then there is a chance of arranged marriage in India.
There is a tradition of giving "Shagun" in our country. This "Shagun" is a type of small gift that can be exchanged between two families. This "Shagun" can anything. The type of "Shagun" is totally depends on the economical condition of two families. This Shagun began the preparation of marriages. Now both families engaged in their preparation. Almost 75% of preparation are done by the girl's family. They have lots of burden on their shoulder as compare to the boy's family. They start decorating their houses. Distributing cards to their relative so that they can attain this ceremony. The Jewellery need to be purchased and many other things from caterers to lighting. Arranged marriage are not very similar across different part of the world. Some Tradition might be similar. Arranged marriage is really a busy schedule for both the family. They do not have enough time to eat properly. The marriage day is really a big day for both the families. This is a last stage where they need to be proper otherwise all goes into the garbage. If everything ends without any problem then this occasion is complete and both couples start their new life with each other.
After successful completion of marriage both partners start to know each other. If they're thinking are matched then there is no problem otherwise it may destroy both lives badly. Arrange marriage is a big gamble for each other. Every day they come to know something new about their partner. In arranging marriage you might get many surprises. In many cases girls need to be suffering a lot. Many times girls family suffer too because the high demand from the boy's side. If they are unable to fulfill their demand then the girl needs to be suffer for that. So it is good for you to solve all your questions regarding the background of the boy's family. Many times there is a fraud in such type of arranged marriage.
In spite of this person prefer arranged marriage because it has some advantages over Love marriage
1. This is suitable for those types of boy and girls who is unable to find their life partner.
2. Their children fall in love with the other and their parent think that this is not a good choice for their children. This leads to an arranged marriage. They think this can save the life of their children.
3. The boy or girl might suffer from some mental problem. At that time parents may think that their child may get rid of this problem after marriage. This leads to an arranged marriage.
This is a dream of every rich family that after marriage their child continue to enjoy their life. Not only rich family but this is a dream of middle class family too. This leads to an Arranged Marriage.
5. Arranged marriage to same caste is very common in India. It is believed of parent that if the cost is similar then there is no problem for their children and their life become easy as today. This leads to an arranged marriage.
6. In many religion early marriages become very common. Their parent thinks that both boy and girl are in the same age so they easily understand each other. This leads to an arranged marriage.
7. Many families want that marriage take place at the right time. Think this is a burden and this burden need to be keep side. This leads to Arrange marriage.
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