Parenting is a tight rope walk. Too liberal or too strict parenting will lead to disastrous results.It's here parent's patience is tested. One should not forget that a child too has its wishes and a separate dominion of its own.
Communication with the child by the parents, More hearing and less lecturing are some of the factors that help in shaping a child.
That's very true! Listening, observing and understanding are the key factors. Many parents and other senior family members constantly preach as well as give their own examples a lot regarding how good they acted as child which actually annoys a child. Elders must share their own stories, good or bad, in a casual way and not as lecture which helps the child to grow properly. We should not judge a child negatively and must try hard to change his/her bad quality into good.
I doubt if there is any one set way of dealing with children because I know from experience that each child, its needs, perception and reactions are different. My three children are three separate individuals and I could not apply my experience with the first one to the other two. Even Psychologists advise parents to go with the flow and wait for reactions and act rather than generalise.
Rude behavior in small children can stem out of any number of reasons , so unless a careful study is made it is difficult to get to the root and find a solution ..
Pay no mind to those who talk behind your back, it simply means that you are two steps ahead !!!
Rightly said that every child is a different human being and certainly their traits differ. So, every parent needs to understand that we cannot handle every child in one common way. With this the seniors need to be patient and broad minded or else our one wrong step towards a child can spoil the whole life of that child. Child psychology is a specialised stream of study so generalising a child's behaviour is not right. We must put in a deep thought and streamline the child. It will be good for the child as well as for the family.
Children always eager to to get pat of appreciation. If the parents do this simple act, a child's self confidence boosts. For this lot of interaction is needed between the parents and the children. This is one way to boost the positivity in a child that goes a long way.