Marriage, the Romans and to us
Our problem is that of marriage, we have decided to raise this issue because we add a third category, and written a great history in Rome during the marriage. This story was a slave who had an affair with his mistress. We were curious to see if our story was right, so we decided to do some research of marriage. The marriage was the best theme. We have decided not to comment gay sexuality, and how when sitting in a marriage. We have made many of us who go because we would lose. We are ready to secondary questions and answers together. The course also shares in the work, and then when we need information. Our points of very large part of the marriage.
We hope the results will be happy to read ...
Love played a role in the marriage, but not the most important. If a marriage is a lot of things seen a lot. The expectations of men and women are different. The expectations of marriage and what did receive depends largely on age, gender and social status.
When the bride may be married, it is still early in his youth. After marriage, he is not a little girl, but I respect a woman. Catullus, even says, "a married woman to her husband's expensive, and less to hate their parents." Women received the social status of her husband. He gets space and respect because she is a woman and a mother, Matrona. He received the respect for his work in the household, and he carried a heavy responsibility. He had keys to the house, and was the boss and the workers. In addition, she designs in the family.
Female advantage for the large family who support it to him for his political activities. In addition, he benefited from the dowry that her parents give her daughter.
A man and a woman:
Marriage gives them a larger network of relatives and their safety. The two were seeing each other sometimes (not always). The marriage was a prerequisite for the "legal" children.
Often the marriage, as was seen in Rome during a romantic story, but the business agreement between the two families. When the boy was in his mid-twenties, and the daughter of his early teens, were selected for their fiances parents. These friends were often consulted, and there was particular to improve the financial situation of their own family. If the two families exchanged betrothal gifts. Contracts was about dowry and a contract was signed. all had begun to kiss freesh sweat. The Wedding Date has been carefully selected, but no later than June was the most popular, marriages took place during the year. But the motives ranging from marriage, and is also very personal. So it has been in marriages in which: were friendship, joy, love and security is of great importance. Roman society is when the couple could be common interests outside the atmosphere of children and families. Some of it seemed like I said, I really romantic love. Sexual satisfaction is the goal of marriage, even if some people are still looking for a regular outside the marriage bed. A very different example is Pliny the Younger (Letters 7:5). He writes for the young wife Calpurnia about how much he did not miss him and how he persecuted by their shape. He is full of love and in his room, and then noted that he is not. The main function of marriage of children. (This is done in the rule.) The second aim is that these children later, their heirs, and then you can give. If a woman could not have children, it is the ideal partner to the pressure. But sometimes it happened that were still married (which appears on a tombstone), because so much together, each so dear.
In general, the marriage was in Rome before, the time commitment. The formal dinner was that the presence of witnesses, the consent to marriage and the promise of marriage is sought. This gave the girl gifts and ring from her fiance. Often the marriage, as was seen in Rome during a romantic story, but the business agreement between the two families. When the boy was in his mid-twenties, and the daughter of his early teens, were selected for their fiances parents. These friends were often consulted, and there was particular to improve the financial situation of their own family. If the two families exchanged betrothal gifts. Contracts was about dowry and a contract was signed. Everything was sealed with a kiss. The Wedding Date was carefully chosen in terms of bathroom signs, and although June was the month that the popular, marriages took over the whole year.
On this occasion Sponsus, groom asked the father of the bride's hand in his following words:
Spondesne Gaiam, Tuam filiam, uxorem hit me?
Promise me you give your daughter Gaia as a woman?
Vortant di bene! Spondeo.
Vortant di bene.
May the gods bless you.
Then there Sponsus sponsa, the bride, the iron ring middle finger of his left hand. This ring is a symbol of instability that without marriage they wanted
Roman marriage was a set of rituals that began in all the halls filled. Rituals are there to see came in this chapter. The organization of marriage was largely in the hands of pronuba. This woman was still married to her first husband, and he brought the couple together and organize a lot of things. Night before the wedding was the bride at the altar of the house of his parents and all his things from childhood. That night they slept in tunica recta, a special yellow costume consisted of a woven piece. The next morning, helped the mother of the bride, her daughter about it. Tunica recta was by a belt. This belt was Herculeus node (node Hercules) away, replace only the groom. This was the symbol of a stable marriage. The bride's hair is divided into six parts. Why is not precisely known, but perhaps it was verjagan evil spirits. Sometimes beads and ribbons attached and fiery red veil is placed on top. This veil was held in place a wreath of flowers had decided the bride for himself. The bridegroom was a wreath of flowers. It was stained, the bride, shoes, and the flame, and sometimes decorated with beads. If the bride was dressed and adorned, began the ceremony in the family and the bride's father. Here, first signs were analyzed, and everything seemed, was the bride and groom "hand". The following words were so clear:
" Ubi tu Gaius, ego Gaia
If you are Gaius, I am Gaia "
Sat couple left at the altar by the skin of the sheep sacrificed in the past. Panis was hard, a kind of cake, victims Jupiter and Juno. Camillus, the son, so that the device is cut into the cake and the couple ate a piece. After the guests wanted to couple the best of luck. In the evening was the father of the bride a big celebration, Cena marriage, family and friends. All guests were present at the end of the evening, got a piece of wedding cake mustaceum. At the end of the evening, the groom took the bride's parents visited their new home. This was by torchlight, in which the guest meal elm, a couple of Piper's son and a torch made of white wood used to drive the evil is done. The bridegroom, sprinkled with nuts and sesame cookies, boys happened on the street as a symbol of childhood, because at the time of the nuts were used as marble. Continue to believe that the bride accompanied by on the way to Juno (Juno Juno Iterduca or Domiduca), including the goddess of marriage. When the couple came to a new house, the bride and the oil mess on the doorpost sign of prosperity. It was then wrapped in Rags to doorpost, a symbol of the dissertation to the bride.
As the couple walked into the house, the opinions are divided. Some say that the groom went first, and then invited the bride. Others say that the groom over the threshold for shutting down the bride (bad start) increased to avoid. Inside, the groom gave his bride of water and fire, the symbols of domestic life and worship. The bride then spoke again the words "Ubi tu Gaius, ego Gaia." With these words he became a member of the family of her husband. Then he took the torch of white wood and put it in his new home. At the end of a festival on that day, the torch was thrown for the guests who had received it and it will bring good luck.
The next day, friends and family invited to the wedding repotia. The guests also brought gifts for them.
Different types of marriages
Had a wide range of marriages in Rome: arranged marriages, and elite, the marriages between slaves and soldiers. The marriage was generally monogamous.
Confarreatio traditional marriage is one that was as patrician. Such a marriage can be closed only when the older man and a woman were married in this way. On this occasion Dialis Flamen (priest in charge of all ceremonies and parades, etc.), Pontifex Maximus (chief priest) and ten witnesses. The woman became the property of the man than his father. He also said that famlilie the bride and groom want to do. Couples who married in this way, almost never divorced. Removal is complex and costly, so that the separation is very rare. When the marriage ended (death, or possibly split), in the possession of the daughter of his father.
Coemptio is the most common marriage. Coemptio ended mostly civilians. It is symbolic for sale. The groom pays Nummus experience, a penny, and received in return for a woman. This is symbolized by a previous marriage in earlier centuries.
After the wedding, there were five witnesses. The ceremony was solemn Confarreatio than less, but the woman is still heard from her husband.
Experience had already expired when the Republic. It was not a practical wedding that was necessary. A year after the couple had lived together, was the wife heard from her husband. But if they had three consecutive nights, he could not owned by the husband. In this marriage was a feeling of emotional attachment.
If the father had died of the girl, and he'd recorded in his will was, it was an independent girl (suae case) is responsible for himself. He can hold his own property and start the divorce itself
Concubine paelex, a woman who is a regular activity (sex) was with a married man with no emotional attachment. They lived together, but the man has another woman. Children from this marriage were illegal (the ratio is not even officially). Where is the emotional bond (or slow growing), and had no legal obstacles to, the relationship can matrimonium. (If the legal wife was dead.) It was also an acceptable alternative, if the father could not pay the dowry. This form was found mainly in slaves, a situation which lasted for two parties released.
The difference between our
Today we know a wide range of marriages. Certainly not the form oncubinatus. In our time, there are several different forms. When we signed a lot of different papers, etc., this time including a copy of a birth certificate, proof of identity, proof of registration of population, citizenship certificate, etc. It was not so extensive. Many of the differences are clear: it was a woman, will automatically receive one years after her husband's fortune. This is not really possible for us. But in the Netherlands and then in Rome, it was basically monogamous marriage. Jo roomalaisten aikaan tapana oli, että hänen vieressä miehen vaimonsa edelleen oli vähän naisia (tai ystävä), yes poikansa hänen käytäntöön lähtivät kahvilan. This is fortunately no longer valid. Many men are now also loyal to a woman. But still there are people who go to prostitutes. This can be compared to the woman next to him. Although women often do you visit these prostitutes. () With a few exceptions. Today's ceremony is also different. A commitment is no longer needed, and even reading signs is extremely rare. Duration of the festival was reduced to one day. Which is almost identical, the interior of the bride. Also, we tend to the bride's beautiful clothes, jewelry and flowers. Dress and the groom onopvallender However, as the Romans used. But the Romans had a cake. For us, no longer bound by a train, but the woman remains the threshold was removed. Also be considered in the Roman period into consideration, and many people are involved in a marriage, there is invite as many friends and relatives.
The reasons for the marriage has now changed. Family call our culture no longer applies, in principle, the choice of partners (although in some circles, is not entirely the case), and the economic strength of the motivation for marriage is good, according to our standards, is no longer valid. Love is the key, and if it is a good reason for marriage, and money is not over yet.Thus, these differences? This time it was, as you understand it, which was in many women, and adultery (the bulk). This is partly because of their religion. The Romans believed in many gods. They had to obey the gods, and they had their lead. Jupiter may have several wives, and the other gods were the women in the eye. This was a man, and this time it's no surprise many women to hold. If the gods did it, which is much greater if they themselves were and why they do it? Men also had more women, because they were important in Roman culture. They had the power and authority to them given. They were the power of women to make a lot of leeway. A few do not choose their own partners. In Roman times, almost all of the status and power. Future spouses parents saw, and "forced" more or less of their children to marry someone else's position. So could a good life free of poverty. It was especially more people access to more material things, the better able and more prestige.
A woman was important that he someone who can provide a good service was married. There was a time so completely different manners. This is closely married with motives that were created especially for themselves better standing in context. Prevailing morality of marriage have been significant changes by the advent of Christianity. Christianity preaches the pure love of a partner, and loyal to a partner. The course, this was by the Romans, but not always in a pair. They saw that it was better than a man in your life. This view is widely shared in Western Europe today. A significant difference between the two, and now it is free or forced to choose a partner. September is free to choose their partners, are now likely to work closely with the rise of individualism in the last century context. Power Church has become smaller and the more people on personal happiness, which concentrates led to social security, needs the commitment of the rich and powerful partners
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