Sex outside marriage. Is it OK?

I just happened to have a discussion with one of my friends. I just don’t want to reveal who it is, maybe he or she. The person says, now the world has changed a lot……In a married relationship, it’s not necessary that a person should keep sexual relationship with spouse only, if he/she never kills the married relationship. He/she can have it outside too, without the knowledge of spouse as long as it never affects their relationship. If it’s for an entertainment or enjoyment it’s OK. It’s no problem even if it is with his/her colleague for an instant moment, situation or due to circumstances. But he/she should never carry it forward. After 1, 2 or 5 years, it’s not at all significant that he/she had sex with some unknown person or someone who doesn’t affect their life today.







I am still a traditional Indian woman who still believes in the old principles of one man- one woman relationship throughout the life. But when my friend says it’s Ok, my mind wanders in thoughts. Now social life has changed a lot. Only a few give value for relations and still believe in the traditional Indian principles of married life. Now men and women get more opportunities to mingle each other; mail, mobiles, sms, networking sites, corporate world etc. If it’s freely available outside, I don’t think any person will find significance with a sexual relationship with his spouse. I believe so; I am not sure now if I am right. What’s your opinion?



Category: Family & Relationships 6 years ago
Sandhya Rani
Asked 6 years ago

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The entire foundation of marriage is based on mutual trust , care and love ! However, in our country we see a lot of men having affairs and even mistresses openly with their wives putting up with it.If the wife were to do the same the entire society including the women folk would turn against her. Now probably the educated women are giving tit for tat by having affairs with their colleagues etc...I will not even question the moral issue or what the society says since society has doubke standards and the less you listen the bettter!But, on the whole I personally tend to think that extra marital affairs are definitely not healthy for a marriage in any society either here,in a western society or anywhere else !
usha manohar
Answered 6 years ago
usha manohar

We cannot generally say that it is right or wrong, it actually depends from person to person. Like so many things, what is right for one person may be wrong for another. We also have to consider the biological and hormonal changes occurring in our bodies. Earlier, marriages happened at very early ages when hormonal and physical changes started occurring in the body, ie, immediately after puberty. Therefore the sexual urges that people faced were satisfied immediately and at home itself. But now the marriageable age has been pushed very further to past 25s and early 30s due to more focus on higher studies, career etc. Therefore young people in order to satisfy their physical needs among themselves, ie, among best friends, casual dating or a little more serious relationships. Wanting or needing to have physical gratification is a natural and biological instinct and holding them up needs great reserves of self-restraint and self-control which is possible only for view. For some in long term it comes out explosively resulting in date rapes, violence against unknown women etc. So we should not look at this issue with a frown but consider the factors that are involved. I too am traditional in my outlook to an extent, but we have to consider other factors also!
Kalyani Nandurkar
Answered 6 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar

Extra marital relation as a rule is not good. But this is personal issue and if couples are comfortable with such relation, this is okay. If some body is too possessive iof the spouse, such extra marital relation will cause trouble. One must not annoy the spouse by indulging in such relation in such condition. Also if somebody indulges in such relation, he must not deny this to the spouse as well.
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani
Answered 6 years ago
Gulshan Kumar Ajmani

Extramarital relationship can never be good. Being modern in my outlook does not entail me in being promiscuous. Either spouse should not indulge in it and try to revive the lost love in their marriage first. But I know few people who do indulge in extramarital relationships and then vouch about their marriage to showoff, when in reality the truth is something else. Even in ultra modern societies like US or UK..extramarital relationships are not accepted, this is one of the reason why divorce rates are high.Some people are of the opinion that until you keep the both the people happy as your spouse and the other person and you spouse doesn't come to know about the other person it is okay. But I think this is a breach of trust in a marriage. Trust once broken can never be mend.
Mousumi Ghosh
Answered 5 years ago
Mousumi Ghosh

Extra marital sexual relation is against the society though many of us do this. I wonder if its OK then why people hide it from his/her partner. Certainly it depends on person to person may be for enjoyment they do it but in my opinion actually they cheat their partner.
Sanjeev Gupta
Answered 6 years ago
Sanjeev Gupta

I agree with Sanjeev. It will be like cheating with the partner to do like that.. This is surely like breaking trust of other one.
AKP
Answered 6 years ago
AKP

Keeping relation with other person other than husband after marriage is not our culture.Being as a indian they should follow the Indian tradition and culture.

Answered 4 years ago

Keeping relation with other in the presence of a spouse. It is not good for our society. Such kind of tradition is not part of our culture. Our country is known for relationship. Such activities in back of your spouse may fall you in front of spouse and other country.
DIPU S KUMAR
Answered 6 years ago
DIPU S KUMAR

IN our country extra marital affairs are not good. Marriage means trusting on our partners and our partner also expects the same from us. So in my opinion extra affairs are not good.

Manoj Kumar Lamba
Answered 4 years ago
Manoj Kumar Lamba

As a tradition it is the best to stay with your partner because it saves you from different problems that can occur on social and medical grounds. Although you cannot deny it exists in every society but no society approves it, however developed. The results are always bad and reminds us of pre-civilized era. No way.
suni51
Answered 6 years ago
suni51

In some special cases we need to follow our tradition. In the marriage bond it is highly related with love, affection, trust, unity, truthful. If the trust is break down then the relation which may also cut. We don't allow these type of culture. This is not a modern thought and it does not  be a modern society. They are culprits. Thief who does not like a thief. 

M.Thamarai Selvi
Answered 4 years ago
M.Thamarai Selvi

Going by the Indian tradition and my principles, Sex outside of marriage is not acceptable to me.

Sheetal Kumar N
Answered 2 years ago
Sheetal Kumar N

Still out country is not developed as like usa or uk. These kind of trend might follow in other countries but not in our country.
Bol Bachchan
Answered 6 years ago
Bol Bachchan

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