2

House guests - how far would you go ?

My neighbor is perpetually grumbling about the many adjustments she and her family has to make when there are house guests. When she told me that they all , meaning her husband and 2 children move into one bedroom and give the two other bedrooms to guests  and change the menu and food preferences according to that of her guests , I  felt that she was going too far..I definitely would never expect that from my hosts . In fact I would go all out to adjust to their household in every way possible ..What do you all think ? Shouldnt the guest adjust rather than the other way round.

Alakananda Sikdar Guests staying for long is a problem. People nowadays stay in more smaller houses, limited resources, busy schedule and it also hampers kid's study. Guests should be more sensible and make the duration of stay shorter - Alakananda Sikdar - 7 years ago


Category: Family & Relationships

Like it on Facebook, Tweet it or share this question on other bookmarking websites.

1

First it is good for guests that they informed in advance to  their ghost for their visit so they can do necessary adjustment. It is not necessary that eating habits of our guest is alike. So we must be careful about it. I read some where that one ghost said that house is small but it have enough space. So we must be follow it. "House is small but heart is large."

Answered


1

I think in most of the homes within 10:00 or 11:00 AM it is all good and cleaned.So,if a guest comes home they can give a favorable response to you at all.They can also understand and adjust with some small things which are not okay if they have came surprisingly.

Answered


1

In my opinion adjustment should be from both sides. 'Adithi devo bhava'. As a host we should provide them with the best, and in return guests should also understand the limitations of host. In many cases, their tastes are different, and there may not be a proper communication between the two parties what to be needed, and what don't.

If I have some guests, I should leave my computer room for them. I placed my PC in guests room. It's my main problem.

Last year I had one family from UP as guests for 5 days. Obviously our dishes and preferences are different. They won't like what we prepare for them, and not able to adjust with our special dishes, though we make specially for them. One of the members brought chicken and ordered, "you should prepare curry with it, not like that you prepared other day". I din't like it....

They also brought special atta from their homes for chapathi, and not preferred to use ours...:). One day I brought 2-3 packet of dosa batter specially for them for supper, and they insisted on chappathi. After preparing it at about 9.30pm, "we want rice too". I just ignored it.... But mother and daughter helped me in kitchen. Horrible those 5 days!!!

When host insists on something, guests should adjust with it. It's my personal opinion. But host should also make efforts from their side to keep guests happy..a bridge between both ends.

Answered


1

As far as I am concerned, whenever I go to visit a friend's house, I adjust my self with the homely conditions and the practices of my Host. I will never question or  ridicule any of the conditions or practices in my Host's Home.

Answered


1

Wow, that is expecting too much from the hosts, I would never do that if I am visiting someone. A little bit of adjustment is fine but going far as to give up entire living spaces for guests and changing the menu entirely just for the guests is going too far. Whenever I have guests., we do have to make little adjustments but I prepare food according to what I am used to making. If there are kids amongst the guests, I do ask for their preference and try to make at least one dish according to their liking, but not entire course or the meal.

Answered
usha manohar Absolutely, I normally try my level best to know the routine of the household and try to fit in, so that I don't disrupt tneirs. Even when I visit my sister and brother in Bangalore , I try to help out by coming the dinner or breakfast since they are all very busy with their work..When I have guests I try to take one day off so that I can spend it with them, show them around etc.. - usha manohar - 7 years ago


1

I think its pretty normal as per indian standards are concerned. But then it depends on who the guests are. When my parents are visiting i willing try to adjust the menu as per their choice and even have my kids rooms for them. The same goes when my sis n her hus are visiting. But for other distant relatives and visitors i generally dont go out of the way. I must also mention that i have not had many house guests though.

Answered
Kalyani Nandurkar Having your or your husband's parents and making such changes for them is quite acceptable as they are family, but going so far for friends or distant relatives would be asking for too much! - Kalyani Nandurkar - 7 years ago


1

This is way too much. I will change the menu and make adjustments ( I have done it several times) if there is an elderly person or someone with health issues. 

Mostly I take a mid path when it comes to cooking. Keep things handy if it is an expected visit, so that I can spend time with them and not spend a lot of time in cooking. I too take a day or two off to entertain them.

When I visit someone, I adjust well with them. Even my daughters and spouse adjust. 

Answered


1

Gambling isn't a very wise decision. You can make money differently.  

Answered
usha manohar Please post relevant responses - usha manohar - 7 years ago


1

This is an Indian tradition where you adjust for your guests so they feel more comfortable and feel welcoming to the place. I think this kind of adjustment for a day or 2 would be fine, but a week long would be very difficult. It is always better bot of them adjust rather than one side of the family adjusting way too far.  

Answered


0

Most of the guests I found were selfish. They will come stay for weeks together with their children and if you plan to visit their town or city , suddenly they will become very busy and not attend your call. Most of the guests who come to my house do have some work in my city so I think their main purpose of visiting us is to save accommodation charges.

Answered


0

Indeed, it is going too far, it is firstly important to develop a culture where coming to a home is informed well in advance for any preparation or understanding at home to happen by that time. Also giving 70% of the space to the guests is not a good idea at all. It is important to have guests but also important to just make them feel good about the place and be friendly but not giving them the entire liberty and space.

Answered


0

"Guests" is a wide definition. If the guests are my close relatives and friends I will give them space, let them have what they want to eat or let them sleep where they wish to do that. But let me add, we need two hands to clap, if they are not adjusting or understand my generosity, they get nothing.    

Answered


0

I never of

Answered


Please register/login to answer this question.  Click here to login