House guests - how far would you go ?

My neighbor is perpetually grumbling about the many adjustments she and her family has to make when there are house guests. When she told me that they all , meaning her husband and 2 children move into one bedroom and give the two other bedrooms to guests  and change the menu and food preferences according to that of her guests , I  felt that she was going too far..I definitely would never expect that from my hosts . In fact I would go all out to adjust to their household in every way possible ..What do you all think ? Shouldnt the guest adjust rather than the other way round.

Category: Family & Relationships 3 years ago
usha manohar
Asked 3 years ago

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First it is good for guests that they informed in advance to  their ghost for their visit so they can do necessary adjustment. It is not necessary that eating habits of our guest is alike. So we must be careful about it. I read some where that one ghost said that house is small but it have enough space. So we must be follow it. "House is small but heart is large."

anil
Answered 3 years ago
anil

I think in most of the homes within 10:00 or 11:00 AM it is all good and cleaned.So,if a guest comes home they can give a favorable response to you at all.They can also understand and adjust with some small things which are not okay if they have came surprisingly.

Aditya tripathi
Answered 2 years ago
Aditya tripathi

In my opinion adjustment should be from both sides. 'Adithi devo bhava'. As a host we should provide them with the best, and in return guests should also understand the limitations of host. In many cases, their tastes are different, and there may not be a proper communication between the two parties what to be needed, and what don't.

If I have some guests, I should leave my computer room for them. I placed my PC in guests room. It's my main problem.

Last year I had one family from UP as guests for 5 days. Obviously our dishes and preferences are different. They won't like what we prepare for them, and not able to adjust with our special dishes, though we make specially for them. One of the members brought chicken and ordered, "you should prepare curry with it, not like that you prepared other day". I din't like it....

They also brought special atta from their homes for chapathi, and not preferred to use ours...:). One day I brought 2-3 packet of dosa batter specially for them for supper, and they insisted on chappathi. After preparing it at about 9.30pm, "we want rice too". I just ignored it.... But mother and daughter helped me in kitchen. Horrible those 5 days!!!

When host insists on something, guests should adjust with it. It's my personal opinion. But host should also make efforts from their side to keep guests happy..a bridge between both ends.

Sandhya Rani
Answered 3 years ago
Sandhya Rani

As far as I am concerned, whenever I go to visit a friend's house, I adjust my self with the homely conditions and the practices of my Host. I will never question or  ridicule any of the conditions or practices in my Host's Home.

rambabu
Answered 3 years ago
rambabu

Wow, that is expecting too much from the hosts, I would never do that if I am visiting someone. A little bit of adjustment is fine but going far as to give up entire living spaces for guests and changing the menu entirely just for the guests is going too far. Whenever I have guests., we do have to make little adjustments but I prepare food according to what I am used to making. If there are kids amongst the guests, I do ask for their preference and try to make at least one dish according to their liking, but not entire course or the meal.

Kalyani Nandurkar
Answered 3 years ago
Kalyani Nandurkar

I think its pretty normal as per indian standards are concerned. But then it depends on who the guests are. When my parents are visiting i willing try to adjust the menu as per their choice and even have my kids rooms for them. The same goes when my sis n her hus are visiting. But for other distant relatives and visitors i generally dont go out of the way. I must also mention that i have not had many house guests though.

Divya
Answered 3 years ago
Divya

This is way too much. I will change the menu and make adjustments ( I have done it several times) if there is an elderly person or someone with health issues. 

Mostly I take a mid path when it comes to cooking. Keep things handy if it is an expected visit, so that I can spend time with them and not spend a lot of time in cooking. I too take a day or two off to entertain them.

When I visit someone, I adjust well with them. Even my daughters and spouse adjust. 

Arunima Singh
Answered 3 years ago
Arunima Singh

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Nicole wilson
Answered 3 years ago
Nicole wilson

This is an Indian tradition where you adjust for your guests so they feel more comfortable and feel welcoming to the place. I think this kind of adjustment for a day or 2 would be fine, but a week long would be very difficult. It is always better bot of them adjust rather than one side of the family adjusting way too far.  

Bajirao
Answered 3 years ago
Bajirao

Most of the guests I found were selfish. They will come stay for weeks together with their children and if you plan to visit their town or city , suddenly they will become very busy and not attend your call. Most of the guests who come to my house do have some work in my city so I think their main purpose of visiting us is to save accommodation charges.

arjun sai
Answered one year ago
arjun sai

Indeed, it is going too far, it is firstly important to develop a culture where coming to a home is informed well in advance for any preparation or understanding at home to happen by that time. Also giving 70% of the space to the guests is not a good idea at all. It is important to have guests but also important to just make them feel good about the place and be friendly but not giving them the entire liberty and space.

epraneeth77
Answered 10 months ago
epraneeth77

"Guests" is a wide definition. If the guests are my close relatives and friends I will give them space, let them have what they want to eat or let them sleep where they wish to do that. But let me add, we need two hands to clap, if they are not adjusting or understand my generosity, they get nothing.    

suni51
Answered 2 years ago
suni51

I never of

Yogita
Answered one year ago
Yogita

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