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usha manohar replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Shampa Sadhya wrote:
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
That is a very honest and frank appraisal...I agree that it is better to have children while one is reasonably young and fit ! But nowadays we find couple getting married without any plans of getting married.One of my neighbor and her hubby are in their late thirties, she being older by a couple of years , have adopted a girl child and looking after her with the help of grand parents and they have no plans on having any children of their own.I see a lot of young couple going in for adoption !
8 years ago
usha manohar said thank you to Shampa Sadhya for his/her reply to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
8 years ago
rambabu liked a reply to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
anil wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
How many time Sharif look after his business and family with flattery of ISI and army. Pakistani people realized it that if they want development and peaceful life then they must be have cordial relation with India.
Exactly if Pakistan wants a peaceful coexistence with India, Give and take policy must be there. I'm sure India will reciprocate in a positive manner.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
usha manohar wrote:
@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
I heard a case of a girl who escaped from her village in the state of Maharashtra to avoid child marriage. An NGO helped her. The girl wanted to study and do a job.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
rambabu wrote:
Now a days, even in rural regions, people are preferring marriages at the age between 25 and 25. Girls are showing interest for education and jobs. They prefer to be more self reliant.
It is only in your region, but Rajasthan is infamous of child marriage. Here in rural area only few people wait for the marriage of their child till age of 18 and 21.
8 years ago
Shampa Sadhya replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
How many time Sharif look after his business and family with flattery of ISI and army. Pakistani people realized it that if they want development and peaceful life then they must be have cordial relation with India.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
usha manohar wrote:
Army operation of hunting terrorist is continue at Pathankot air base. Pakistan's print media reprove act of terrorist. I think voice of media is voice of public. So Pakistan public is condemned this deed of terrorist. It is time to support this view of Pakistan's public to make pressure of Pakistan's government to took some strong step against enemies of peace.
Pakistan has always leaned towards army rule which is almost like a dictatorship with the army calling the shots and the elected government falling in to their demands,People have now probably got fed up after seeing how they are losing out in many ways because of this, so are voicing their opinion . BUt, one cannot expect anything much from the government which has always been cantankerous as far as India is concerned !
Yes some what you are right, but think for a moment if elected government of Pakistan took any step against the wish of the Pakistan army and ISI what will be happen with them. Remember Dismiseal of Nawaz Sahrif government in 1999 by Parvej. Nawaz Sharif and his family had to run Soudi Arbia to save life.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
anil wrote:
Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:
In Pakistan there is more influence of Pakistani army, terrorist groups and ISI than of Pakistan government. So to control over terrorism from Pakistan side, it is important for India to attack on the terrorist groups which are residing in Pakistan.
India can attack only after they cross our border. India is not USA who can attack in territory of Pakistan. To stop them crossing border India must be tighten security at borders.
According to latest news, Pakistan is behind Pathankot attack.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
anil wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
Helplessness of Pakistan's PM is problem. He can't take any action against army and ISI, even he can't oppose them. Indeed, Pakistan means Pakistan peoples and politicians who want peaceful and friendly relation with India. But other two are not like it because theirs existence depends on worst relation with India.
Rulers of Pakistan prefer Army rule which is nothing short of Dictatorship. But , now people are vexed with Army rule. They are more inclined towards friendly relations with India.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:
In Pakistan there is more influence of Pakistani army, terrorist groups and ISI than of Pakistan government. So to control over terrorism from Pakistan side, it is important for India to attack on the terrorist groups which are residing in Pakistan.
India can attack only after they cross our border. India is not USA who can attack in territory of Pakistan. To stop them crossing border India must be tighten security at borders.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Now a days, even in rural regions, people are preferring marriages at the age between 25 and 25. Girls are showing interest for education and jobs. They prefer to be more self reliant.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
Helplessness of Pakistan's PM is problem. He can't take any action against army and ISI, even he can't oppose them. Indeed, Pakistan means Pakistan peoples and politicians who want peaceful and friendly relation with India. But other two are not like it because theirs existence depends on worst relation with India.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Shampa Sadhya wrote:
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
That is a very honest and frank appraisal...I agree that it is better to have children while one is reasonably young and fit ! But nowadays we find couple getting married without any plans of getting married.One of my neighbor and her hubby are in their late thirties, she being older by a couple of years , have adopted a girl child and looking after her with the help of grand parents and they have no plans on having any children of their own.I see a lot of young couple going in for adoption !
8 years ago
usha manohar said thank you to Shampa Sadhya for his/her reply to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
8 years ago
rambabu liked a reply to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
anil wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
How many time Sharif look after his business and family with flattery of ISI and army. Pakistani people realized it that if they want development and peaceful life then they must be have cordial relation with India.
Exactly if Pakistan wants a peaceful coexistence with India, Give and take policy must be there. I'm sure India will reciprocate in a positive manner.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
usha manohar wrote:
@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
I heard a case of a girl who escaped from her village in the state of Maharashtra to avoid child marriage. An NGO helped her. The girl wanted to study and do a job.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
rambabu wrote:
Now a days, even in rural regions, people are preferring marriages at the age between 25 and 25. Girls are showing interest for education and jobs. They prefer to be more self reliant.
It is only in your region, but Rajasthan is infamous of child marriage. Here in rural area only few people wait for the marriage of their child till age of 18 and 21.
8 years ago
Shampa Sadhya replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Here, I would like to write about myself. I was actually disinterested in getting married but finally when I decided to get married I was thirty years old and my hubby was thirty-two. It was fine until my son was born when I was thirty-five. Then I realised I made a wrong decision of getting married so late. After being parents my husband started calculating how to put everything at the right place for our son before his retirement and I used to get exhausted very quickly while looking after him. At 35 I lacked that patience and energy which was very much needed to nurture a child. I sincerely feel that if at all a girl wants to get married then it should be around 25/26. I would suggest so but will never force anyone to do so because it's definitely a personal choice. Now, that my son is no more a toddler so I don't need to run after him but the concern regarding his completion of education and his further establishment still remains a concern for us because up to an extent the parents are responsible for their child's future.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
usha manohar wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
How many time Sharif look after his business and family with flattery of ISI and army. Pakistani people realized it that if they want development and peaceful life then they must be have cordial relation with India.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
@ Kalyani I agree that lifestyle and demands of the society one lives in plays a dominant part in deciding the age at which children get married and since arranged marriages are still very much a part of it , parents have more say than the children. But things are slowly changing ..
@anil, rambabu , I agree that in large and even small cities 25 or even 30 is not a great age since it takes that long for both boys and girls to get settled in their career and stabilise before they think of getting married.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
usha manohar wrote:
Army operation of hunting terrorist is continue at Pathankot air base. Pakistan's print media reprove act of terrorist. I think voice of media is voice of public. So Pakistan public is condemned this deed of terrorist. It is time to support this view of Pakistan's public to make pressure of Pakistan's government to took some strong step against enemies of peace.
Pakistan has always leaned towards army rule which is almost like a dictatorship with the army calling the shots and the elected government falling in to their demands,People have now probably got fed up after seeing how they are losing out in many ways because of this, so are voicing their opinion . BUt, one cannot expect anything much from the government which has always been cantankerous as far as India is concerned !
Yes some what you are right, but think for a moment if elected government of Pakistan took any step against the wish of the Pakistan army and ISI what will be happen with them. Remember Dismiseal of Nawaz Sahrif government in 1999 by Parvej. Nawaz Sharif and his family had to run Soudi Arbia to save life.
8 years ago
usha manohar replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
@ MG Singh There are 2 sides to a coin. There is a chance that such meetings like Modi-Sharif can have a good effect by sidelining the ISI and strengthening teh hands of Sharif. Thsi is the need of the hour.
While it would be the ideal situation if we could end the hostilities and start developing normal friendly ties with Pakistan, the reality is that Pakistan is a messed up nation that is totally under the control of ISI and its people have very little say since it is not a democratic set up ! Nawaz Sharif is a foxy leader who only looks after his own business and family interests for which he needs the support of ISi and other top leaders .
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
anil wrote:
Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:
In Pakistan there is more influence of Pakistani army, terrorist groups and ISI than of Pakistan government. So to control over terrorism from Pakistan side, it is important for India to attack on the terrorist groups which are residing in Pakistan.
India can attack only after they cross our border. India is not USA who can attack in territory of Pakistan. To stop them crossing border India must be tighten security at borders.
According to latest news, Pakistan is behind Pathankot attack.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
anil wrote:
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
Helplessness of Pakistan's PM is problem. He can't take any action against army and ISI, even he can't oppose them. Indeed, Pakistan means Pakistan peoples and politicians who want peaceful and friendly relation with India. But other two are not like it because theirs existence depends on worst relation with India.
Rulers of Pakistan prefer Army rule which is nothing short of Dictatorship. But , now people are vexed with Army rule. They are more inclined towards friendly relations with India.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Terrorist attack at Pathankot air base.
Manoj Kumar Lamba wrote:
In Pakistan there is more influence of Pakistani army, terrorist groups and ISI than of Pakistan government. So to control over terrorism from Pakistan side, it is important for India to attack on the terrorist groups which are residing in Pakistan.
India can attack only after they cross our border. India is not USA who can attack in territory of Pakistan. To stop them crossing border India must be tighten security at borders.
8 years ago
rambabu replied to the topic Is there a perfect age for marriage ?.
Now a days, even in rural regions, people are preferring marriages at the age between 25 and 25. Girls are showing interest for education and jobs. They prefer to be more self reliant.
8 years ago
anil replied to the topic Modi Visits Pakistan for a meeting with Sharif in a lightening visit.
Kalyani Nandurkar wrote:
usha manohar wrote:
Now with the Pathankote incident we are back to square one, Pakistan and more importantly ISI has always back stabbed India and they seem to be doing it again..
ISI and the Pakistan Army will keep doing that no matter what and how many friendly gestures are extended to them. Also, Nawaz Sharif is only a namesake PM the real power lies in the hands of ISI and the army. So it is time that we hit them back hard and for real.
Helplessness of Pakistan's PM is problem. He can't take any action against army and ISI, even he can't oppose them. Indeed, Pakistan means Pakistan peoples and politicians who want peaceful and friendly relation with India. But other two are not like it because theirs existence depends on worst relation with India.
8 years ago