I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

What is the use in crying after the damage was done? She should have paid attention to those who were warning her about her son, now nothing is going to bring her back! So sad and unfortunate!

Absolutely, she took her the most important decision of her own life she should have been careful and listen to elders who are far more experienced than her,

I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

What is the use in crying after the damage was done? She should have paid attention to those who were warning her about her son, now nothing is going to bring her back! So sad and unfortunate!

Somewhere there is a link between the internet and the increased rate of crimes that are related to drugs and sex, that is my feeling ! People tend to give less importance to morality and self respect , as a result of which values are crumbling !

I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

What is the use in crying after the damage was done? She should have paid attention to those who were warning her about her son, now nothing is going to bring her back! So sad and unfortunate!

Somewhere there is a link between the internet and the increased rate of crimes that are related to drugs and sex, that is my feeling ! People tend to give less importance to morality and self respect , as a result of which values are crumbling !

Due to internet people are staying more hours with computer and more interested in virtual friends like that of Facebook and they tend to take decision without consulting elders who have the huge life experience to observe and identify a perfect person.

I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

What is the use in crying after the damage was done? She should have paid attention to those who were warning her about her son, now nothing is going to bring her back! So sad and unfortunate!

Somewhere there is a link between the internet and the increased rate of crimes that are related to drugs and sex, that is my feeling ! People tend to give less importance to morality and self respect , as a result of which values are crumbling !

Your feeling is totally correct. Now because of easy connectivity with large groups due to various social networking sites, the young people are kept alert and aware about various parties and what is going to be served etc. and all in code languages which are quite innocent to understand for an adult. Some parties that were raided by police in recent times were such types whose invitations on Facebook were quite innocent but actually drugs of various types were being sold. Additionally a mother's intuition is also very important to realise that something wrong is happening with the child!

[quote]Somewhere there is a link between the internet and the increased rate of crimes that are related to drugs and sex, that is my feeling ! People tend to give less importance to morality and self respect , as a result of which values are crumbling ![/quote]

[quote]mohan manohar - Due to internet people are staying more hours with computer and more interested in virtual friends like that of Facebook and they tend to take decision without consulting elders who have the huge life experience to observe and identify a perfect person.[/quote]

[quote] Kalyani - Your feeling is totally correct. Now because of easy connectivity with large groups due to various social networking sites, the young people are kept alert and aware about various parties and what is going to be served etc. and all in code languages which are quite innocent to understand for an adult. Some parties that were raided by police in recent times were such types whose invitations on Facebook were quite innocent but actually drugs of various types were being sold. Additionally a mother's intuition is also very important to realise that something wrong is happening with the child! [/quote]

No doubt that most of our life styles have undergone a change now in the past decade and we do spend a lot of time on the net.But I feel it is all the more reason to become more aware of what is happening around you rather than let others dictate terms to you and make decisions for you...
Kalyani, I too have seen such seemingly innocent posts which gets posted on FB , twitter and other social sites. As a mother I guess one is well aware of what is happening with your child. I remember when my children were growing up, I used to be perpetually busy because I had to take care of three very demanding kids lol...But all it took was a glance to tell me that there was something bothering one of them ! It is inbuilt in us so how can a mother neglect to the extent that a child goes completely astray ..t is really sad when such things happen !

I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

in lifetime there are obviously somw warning signs that need to be taken seriously. Zchool

School authority warning are first sign if taken seriously these incident would not have happened at the first instance.

I think every technology has positive and negative effect. This is also true in case of Internet. The merits are numerous but demerits are less. They can be avoided if we keep some privacy while sharing our confidential data..
Recent case in FB.. one girl committed suicide with her family after her friend used her identity and share some photos of her as she is prostitute. If she could have maintained some privacy by using the privacy settings maybe this wouldn't have happened.

True....there is rather a lack of awareness regarding usage of privacy settings and even if they do know about them, most people, especially young kids do not bother with them. They also need to be aware of the kind of photos and statuses they post online.

Exactly ! I see some people posting images of each and every thing that is happening in their lives - what they eat,wear,whom they meet, their relatives etc etc.,..If you are stupid to that extent it is likely that you fall prey to mischief makers who think that internet is a safe place giving them annonimity which is not the case at all... It is very ewasy to trace people now with all the modern technology !

It is especially easy for perverts who keep trawling such social networking sites to trap gullible young children in their webs and exploit them. There is a family I know whose teenaged daughter and her friends frequently post updates and photos about their outings, weekend parties etc. with too many details. I think this is very harmful for the group in question and am quite perturbed about it but I know that if i tell the lady in question, she will not take in positively. She might think that I am posing a doubt about her daughter! I think she should be alerted about it since she is not at all versed in computers, internet etc. but my husband asks me not to get involved! :blink:

Yes Kalyani, I too see teenagers giving out too many private details which may at some stage become dangerous especially here in India where there are stalkers of all kinds.This is even more relevant for girls who are constantly at the receiving end when they are out in public places.I wish the lady has the sense to grasp this and advise her daughter accordingly ...It is not being prudish but being careful !

Exactly...but since the lady in question is related to us, the issue becomes more complicated! We have experienced this in the past and that is why my husband feels we should not interfere! Also what irks me is that most ladies, even in educated and well-off families refuse to accept that anything horrible CAN happen to their children and happily ignore such activities.

I know ! Most people dont realise that everybody is as vulnerable ! Recently we had a very unfortunate incident in our town among a friends family where they lost their young son who was apparently doing drugs , he was only 15 years old and in high school ! The mother had been warned by the school authorities about his skipping classes and not doing well in studies but she never really bothered to investigate and get to the bottom of things and the result was that the boy went away with a few older boys and was not seen after that.His body was found a week later in a guest house on the outskirts and he had died of drug overdose, now the case is being investigated,the mother understandably is inconsolable, but she could have probably avoided the tragedy...

in lifetime there are obviously somw warning signs that need to be taken seriously. Zchool

School authority warning are first sign if taken seriously these incident would not have happened at the first instance.

Of course there are always warning signs when things are going wrong and parents should immediately take steps to see that things dont get out of hand ...

[quote]Somewhere there is a link between the internet and the increased rate of crimes that are related to drugs and sex, that is my feeling ! People tend to give less importance to morality and self respect , as a result of which values are crumbling !

[quote]mohan manohar - Due to internet people are staying more hours with computer and more interested in virtual friends like that of Facebook and they tend to take decision without consulting elders who have the huge life experience to observe and identify a perfect person.[/quote]

[quote] Kalyani - Your feeling is totally correct. Now because of easy connectivity with large groups due to various social networking sites, the young people are kept alert and aware about various parties and what is going to be served etc. and all in code languages which are quite innocent to understand for an adult. Some parties that were raided by police in recent times were such types whose invitations on Facebook were quite innocent but actually drugs of various types were being sold. Additionally a mother's intuition is also very important to realise that something wrong is happening with the child! [/quote]

No doubt that most of our life styles have undergone a change now in the past decade and we do spend a lot of time on the net.But I feel it is all the more reason to become more aware of what is happening around you rather than let others dictate terms to you and make decisions for you...
Kalyani, I too have seen such seemingly innocent posts which gets posted on FB , twitter and other social sites. As a mother I guess one is well aware of what is happening with your child. I remember when my children were growing up, I used to be perpetually busy because I had to take care of three very demanding kids lol...But all it took was a glance to tell me that there was something bothering one of them ! It is inbuilt in us so how can a mother neglect to the extent that a child goes completely astray ..t is really sad when such things happen ![/quote]

Exactly Usha! even my mum who had to take of us three kids could make out in a single glance if there was anything wrong with us. There was simply no hiding anything from her! But I see more and more women neglecting to understand what their kids are doing especially with respect to social networking sites, most of the time there attitude is like, its a new thing with the kids and everyone is doing it. Also, I have full faith in my child and he./she can do no wrong! These women do not even take efforts to understand what exactly FB or Twitter is all about! :blink:

Every scientific research has good as well as bad aspects. Internet has shown its good aspects till date. It may become a villain in future undoubtedly.

User has the power of discrimination with him. Not anywhere else. If he or she fails to use discrimination and fall prey to the bad effects of a thing, its the fault of the user who uses the gadget or internet.